Comments on: When Adult Children Become Caregivers to Parents http://getcare.us/featured/when-adult-children-become-caregivers-to-parents/ Formula to Financially and Spiritually Revolutionize your Life! Mon, 19 Jul 2010 07:10:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Rhonda Travland http://getcare.us/featured/when-adult-children-become-caregivers-to-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Rhonda Travland Mon, 03 Aug 2009 21:59:41 +0000 http://getcare.us/?p=3#comment-36 This is a "hot" topic now, but caregiver contracts have been in our work for many years. It helps to minimize what we at the Caregiver Survival Institute call the "Feeling Owed Syndrome" which leads directly to caregiver burnout...Or worse, Elder Abuse. We suggest all caregivers and care-recipients have a contract even if there is no exchange of money. State clearly what you are willing to provide and what you cannot do as a caregiver. This helps preserve the relationship between adults..especially true for family relationships. Most family (informal) caregivers start out of love and then over time they begin to realize they did not consider how overwhelmed they would feel. It is never too late to begin the contract process. Just talk to each other. Rhonda Travland CaregiverSurvival.org There are many ways to develop a contract. This is a “hot” topic now, but caregiver contracts have been in our work for many years. It helps to minimize what we at the Caregiver Survival Institute call the “Feeling Owed Syndrome” which leads directly to caregiver burnout…Or worse, Elder Abuse.

We suggest all caregivers and care-recipients have a contract even if there is no exchange of money. State clearly what you are willing to provide and what you cannot do as a caregiver. This helps preserve the relationship between adults..especially true for family relationships. Most family (informal) caregivers start out of love and then over time they begin to realize they did not consider how overwhelmed they would feel.

It is never too late to begin the contract process. Just talk to each other.
Rhonda Travland
CaregiverSurvival.org

There are many ways to develop a contract.

]]> By: Susan Torrico http://getcare.us/featured/when-adult-children-become-caregivers-to-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Susan Torrico Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:21:32 +0000 http://getcare.us/?p=3#comment-32 Your article spotlights a very important area that few families ever consider. A legal agreement spelling out "who does what, when, and how" sounds like a great idea, but I must admit the thought never occurred to me probably because I'm an only child and it was ALL up to to me anyway. I've spent nearly 14 years developing a suite of reminder tools to help family members successfully handle one of the most stressful and demanding care-giver tasks - managing their medications. Simple automated reminders take the stress and guess-work out of the process - for everyone involved. Consider adding that tool as a requirement to your eldercare contract. Your article spotlights a very important area that few families ever consider. A legal agreement spelling out “who does what, when, and how” sounds like a great idea, but I must admit the thought never occurred to me probably because I’m an only child and it was ALL up to to me anyway.

I’ve spent nearly 14 years developing a suite of reminder tools to help family members successfully handle one of the most stressful and demanding care-giver tasks – managing their medications.

Simple automated reminders take the stress and guess-work out of the process – for everyone involved. Consider adding that tool as a requirement to your eldercare contract.

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